Inspirations

Inspirations by Frances Durisseau

Have you noticed that negativity is often used to help you buy things? I was just thinking about that when needing to purchase a few items recently. By pointing out our flaws, such as aging, we buy anti-wrinkle creams, lotions and potions. By convincing us our homes are full of germs and bacteria, we seek out anti-germ and bacteria-killing cleaning products. The proverbial “they” in our lives, by putting our focus on the negative things we encounter, sell us on products, thoughts and beliefs.
Negativity sells. But it can also lead us to a place of change, which brings us back full circle to my last article, on decision making. We tend to think of negativity as bad most of the time. We want to remain positive and hopeful. If the things in your life that are negative, or that we perceive to be negative, lead us to making better “purchases” or decisions, then the negativity is just a step in our ultimate journey in life.
When you are facing any wrinkle, germ or other negative challenge in your life, let it lead you to finding its positive answers. You very well might come out feeling younger, cleaner and a few steps more advanced in your journey! Negativity sells. Use it to your advantage, not your detriment.
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Inspirations by Frances Durisseau

Every day each one of us has one thing in common. Every single day of our lives, we all have to face making decisions. From simple selections, such as what we might want to eat for lunch, to more serious choices, such as what to do career-wise or whether to relocate and the best discipline for our child, all the way to life-and-death judgments at times, we all have many decisions to make throughout our lives. Some decisions are extremely challenging and some are simple and easy. Finding peace, comfort and satisfaction with our own decisions is the goal.
So how do you know if you are making the correct decisions? The truth of the matter is you don’t always know that. All we can do when faced with difficult choices is to seek guidance through wise counsel when needed and, when all else seems to leave a question mark, to go with our gut, as they say.
Before making a critical decision, listen to your heart. Look for peace if at all possible. It would be great if all decisions were as easy as what we might like to eat for lunch. Has your lunch ever left you with indigestion or heartburn? Even for our simple decisions, we sometimes choose incorrectly, don’t we? Sometimes, our decisions and choices leave us with lessons learned. Remember, when that happens, to learn the lesson and put it behind you, focusing on the now.
Decisions, even easy ones, are sometimes hard but that is how we grow and evolve. Keep growing!

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Inspirations by Francis Durisseau

Last month, many of us came into the new year with a list of resolutions, goals and plans. Often, we are ruled by our to-do lists in life. I am a list maker. I write myself notes on paper and electronically on various devices, including my cell phone, so they are always with me.
But I have been thinking about trashing the lists – maybe not for good but on occasion. Maybe we sometimes need to ignore the directions, take some wrong turn, see where it takes us and then challenge ourselves to see if I can find our way home.
Do I always have to follow a list at the store or dare I throw caution to the wind and shop for whatever I want instead of exactly what I need or plan for? Maybe I need to talk to more strangers unexpectedly, visit and explore places I haven’t been before and toss the plans and be a tad more adventurous
in a spontaneous manner.
Do I dare? Do you dare? I’m thinking maybe we should. I guess I had better start a list about that! In the meantime, it’s off to the store to check some very normal list-type things off my list.
But maybe, just maybe, I will start by hitting delete to that list, seeing where my imagination and wallet take me and forgetting about the usual milk, bread and eggs and buying something exotic like a fruit I’ve never tasted instead. You have to start somewhere!
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Inspirations by Frances Durisseau

Recently, I saw a meme on a social-networking site that said: “Problems are like washing machines. They twist, spin and knock us around. But, in the end, we come out cleaner,
brighter and better than before.” My first reaction was: “Oh, wow, this is so true”. But, immediately, I stepped back out
of my Pollyanna dream-world thinking and returned to reality.
Do you do you own laundry? If so, you’ll know that, although sometimes this thought is true, there’s a “but” – and it’s a big one. Do you lose socks in the laundry process, like they went to live with Jesus or something? Ladies, do you ever dry your bras and not hook them closed and find them tangled up on something else that they have put their hooks into so you have to practically call a locksmith to get them loose?
Have you had things shrink down to the size of Barbie doll’s closet? Do your “permanent press” items ever come out wrinkled, even when you use the correct washer-dryer settings? Have you ever bleached the wrong items? Ever mixed your whites with your colors and ended up with pink everything?
As a mom or stay-at-home dad, have you ever accidentally melted a crayon in the dryer? Had buttons show up in the lint trap because they popped off? Have you dealt with stains that, no matter what you do, won’t disappear even when you attempt to “Shout” them out?
These are just a few of the things that popped into my head after a lifetime of doing bright, sparkly, lovely laundry. Sometimes we do come out all clean, fresh and lovely. But reality says that, sometimes, we feel as though we have been through the wringer on the wrong cycle and have come out of the dryer with some wrinkles we hadn’t planned!
I know that you know that I am “spot on” with my thinking. Sometimes, we still need to break out the iron for our wrinkles in life!
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Inspirations by Frances Durisseau

I  want to continue with the theme of love as Valentine’s Day is just a couple of days away. Having one person to love, a soulmate if you will allow me to use that term, is magnificent. It fills up so many places in our hearts and lives. There is no other feeling quite like the feeling of being in love and sharing love with one special person.
But, as close as you are to that person, having that soulmate will never solve all your problems or actually make your every dream come true. There is no love at first sight that actually endures and grows without much work and total commitment. What you find is that, as love grows, it is something worth fighting for, struggling for and sacrificing for, as is the person in whom you are investing it.
It’s not because that person is perfect because you will find, as time goes by, that you each have many imperfections. As you grow together, and as individuals, you will discover how to complement each other’s strengths and flaws in a way that allows your hearts and souls to unite in sweet harmony, which then results in a type of unity that leads to completion of your love.
There is no greater feeling than this thing called love that we celebrate on Valentine’s Day. Its depths and mysteries fill us with the greatest power on Earth. It truly is life changing and deserving of celebrating.
I wish for you a day filled with the fragrance of flowers, the sweetness of chocolates and the beauty of poetry and love songs. Have a dance for me!
Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.