Inspirations

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New           Frances Durisseau

We’ve all probably done it at one time or the other. I’m referring to what is known as “judging a book by its cover” syndrome. We end up rushing to pronounce judgment about someone or something based on how things look without knowing them or the entire truth of the situation. Have you ever had that happen to you personally?
Appearances can be very deceiving. Maybe the tattoo-covered biker guy is actually one of the nicest gentlemen in your neighborhood, who spends countless hours volunteering to help the less fortunate.
Or the lady in front of you at the grocery store using her food-stamp card isn’t really a leach of the government system but a single mom working full time, trying hard to make ends meet and just can’t quite do it on her own.
Could it be that the neighbor in the most beautiful home on the block, with the fancy cars and cute kids and who appears to have it all, actually cries herself to sleep every night because her life is falling apart behind those closed doors?
So don’t be quick to make judgments about people based upon their appearance. We are so much more than our size, our bank accounts, our sense of style or even our habits. It is our hearts that define us and leave a lasting impression.
I would hope that you would read several chapters into my “book” before you decide whether you like it and not base
your opinion solely on the cover because I’m not always
very photogenic.

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New           Frances Durisseau

I’ve been thinking about a couple of phrases that I wish we could get out of our vocabularies and, especially, out of our thinking. Both of them tend to either distract us or cause us to blame other things in life for our unhappiness or our unfulfilled expectations in our lives.
Those two phrases are “if only” and “what if”. I’m sure that, if you haven’t said them, you’ve heard them said many times.
“If only I had more money, or a better job, or better kids, or I were healthier, or younger, or …” Or the flip side is living with “What if I would have gotten a better education, married later, hadn’t been abused” etc.
Often we use these two phrases to distract ourselves because we are dissatisfied or unhappy with our lives. In order to feel at peace and fully content with life, we must first learn to love ourselves.
For most of us, it’s hard to know whether or not we truly love and accept ourselves or just think we do. Do you often feel you are not enough? Not smart enough, don’t look good enough, don’t fit in, etc? Then, chances are that you have a problem with self love.
Learning to accept and love yourself is the beginning of peace, contentment and healing in your life. When you reach that place, “if only” and “what if” don’t seem so important anymore. What becomes important is your “here and now”.
Find contentment in the gift of this moment and let love flow through your open heart deep down into your beautiful soul.

Frances Durisseau is a motivational speaker and writer.
Contact her by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New           Frances Durisseau

Recently I’ve been following up on some family history. A lot of research has been done by others in my family that is utterly fascinating. I’ve found it a good thing to concentrate on, both to keep my mind busy and to learn some amazing facts about my ancestors.
I’ve had people at the battles of the Alamo and San Jacinto and a great grandfather who was best friends with the outlaw John Wesley Hardin – and I might be qualified to be a member of the Daughters Of The Republic Of Texas! On the other side, I’m related to folks who were “titled” in Great Britain a long time ago.
I believe that knowing who we are and where we come from can be important in our lives. But, who are we really? What makes us the people we are today? The spirits of our ancestors might help carry us into our futures but it’s our life experiences that shape us into the beings that we become.
The combination of our joys and sorrows, the testings and trials, our successes and failures and a life of intricate details is a continual birthing process that we all must go through. But, just like physical birth, when you look at the rewards, you know it is worth every one of those laborious trials and even the sorrows.
I am Frances, from the family of Wingate, Perry, Dillard and Carter (and others generations before). But who I am is a woman of faith, hope, and strength, who is growing day by day, who gets a little overwhelmed every now and then, who happens to be from a family of amazing people who came before me.
Who are you?

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New           Frances Durisseau

The past six months have brought many changes in my life. But, actually, life is all about change. Some change is forced on us, and some change we choose. I’d like to share with you some of the things I’ve learned from the changes I’ve been through thus far.
I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you think you can’t and that you don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward. I’ve learned that, no matter how difficult it might be, you need to train yourself to see the good in even the most painful situation because it is there, hiding in the midst of the tears.
I’ve learned that life is short. If you’re wrong, own your mistakes. Yes, you make them. Ask for forgiveness and always give it. That’s how you learn and earn respect in life.
I’ve learned that there is no time to leave important words unsaid, so always say them and, if needed, say them again and again, because not everyone is ready to hear them all the way down to their heart level. I’ve learned that you need to stop rushing things that need time to grow, whatever those things may be.
Last, but not least, I’ve learned that people need to be encouraged. People need to be reminded of how wonderful they are. People need to be believed in and told that they are brave and smart and capable of accomplishing all the dreams they dream and more. And people need to be shown that they are loved. Not for what they do, or for who they are, but because they are. Remind each other of this. Often.
I’ve also learned that I’m still learning. And that’s a good thing, so I’ll probably be jotting down a few more of these lessons to share with you along the way!

Frances Durisseau is a motivational speaker and writer.
Contact her by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New          Frances Durisseau

I am part of a writers’ circle where we have conversations about various topics concerning our creative work. Many of us are working on or have been working on books of different genres. Some are journalists, others are poets or are just passionate about writing and do it because they have the opportunity.
I’ve discovered that there is one thing that all of us have found to be true – write until it’s as natural as breathing; write until not writing makes you anxious. My husband was the same with photography. His cameras were an extension of his arm and, when he couldn’t do it, it was like something was missing from him.
We all need a passion in life and some of us are doubly blessed to be able to combine our passion with our profession. But, even if you cannot be employed at what you truly love to do, you should still be chasing after that which you love.
Is it music? Cooking and the culinary arts? Gardening or horticulture? Painting or sculpting? Are animals your passion? Have YOU dreamed of picking up a camera and seeing the world of nature through a lens?
Start thinking about what you can do to achieve your dream! Make some calls and walk through some doors. Find a piano teacher. Start writing if that’s what you love. Join a continuing-education class.
You are not too old, nor too young, to find your passion. And, if you’ve just misplaced it or forgotten about it, isn’t it time to find it and let that excitement ignite a fire in your heart and soul once again?
I don’t know about you but passion is one of my favorite words!

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.