Inspirations

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New Frances Durisseau

Everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back
to the person they once were. Life has so many different chapters. One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end of the book. I know that there are many more good ones coming ahead, but there have been some plot changes that I didn’t expect in the novel of my life. I believed that I had the outline of each chapter planned ahead, ready for the lines to be written and the pages to be filled as the years unfolded. But real life stepped in and has caused a rewrite to take place.
Just like in a good book, many exciting things have happened in my life. In fact, it truly would have all the elements for an incredible book or even a screenplay that would far surpass any Hallmark or Lifetime movie.
Many times I’ve had to say: “Today I close the door to the past, I open the door to the future, take a deep breath, take a step of faith and start a new chapter in my life.” Each time, I had no idea what the next day would bring but I chose to hold my head up, maintain my faith and keep hope alive, while at the same time shaking in my shoes.
People often tell me I am wise, strong and courageous. If I am, I owe it to every pain, heartbreak, tear and obstacle that I have faced and endured because they have helped mold and shape me into who I am today. Even right now, I don’t know what tomorrow holds for me but I’m trying to fill this difficult chapter with as much good as I can.
Although I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, I’m going to hold my head high, think positive and expect the best. Sometimes, you just have to stop worrying, wondering and doubting and accept that this is your life. It may not be how you planned it but it’s what you have to work with.
Find something you love to do and do it. If you don’t like something, change it. Don’t over-analyze everything. Start writing those chapters and filling up those blank pages. It’s going to be an incredible story when it’s all said and done and I, for one, want an autographed copy!

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Durisseau Frances NewThe fruits of happiness

I  have noticed something recently. I am not as moody as I used to be. I also don’t think I’m as grouchy as I had been getting either. For a while, it seemed that, the older I was getting, the easier it was to be a bit more cranky. I don’t think I’m complaining nearly as much and I’m not as worried or afraid as I once was.
I’ve worked on all these things, actually, because I saw myself becoming a grumpy older person. Now I’m not “all” that old yet. In fact, I know many people who are older than I who are a whole lot grouchier! And I know some who are younger who are grouchy young people.
So I just decided I didn’t want to be known as that “grumpy old lady” at this stage of my life.
Life can squeeze us really hard at times and, when it does, whatever is inside of us is going to find its way out. If you are full of rotten fruit, or let’s say sour grapes, you are going to be pouring out some nasty vinegar and nobody is going to want any of that.
But, if you are planting good fruit, you are then gardening your heart, soul and mind in the way they were intended to be taken care of, and those sour and rotten grapes will start dying on the vine.
So now, as the pressures of life squeeze you, you will have the most beautiful and fragrant wine come flowing out of you! And that’s something that is pleasant to be around and that you will want to share.
I hope you always feel love hugging your heart and uplifting your soul. May you always be so full of the good fruits of love, joy and thankfulness that not a single sour grape can be squeezed out of you.
Remember, you are the caretaker of your inner garden and your life will always be the harvest. Plant well, water as needed and always invite others to the feast – especially me! I promise I won’t be grumpy!

Frances Durisseau is a motivational speaker and writer. Contact her by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New Frances Durisseau

There will be times in life when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going to go wrong for everyone.
The car breaks down, the kids get sick, the dog has to go to the vet to the tune of a great big bill. Maybe a close loved one passes away, or we have a significant work change, or relationship break up.
You wake up every morning and greet the day, barely peeking out from the covers for fear of what you might be facing in the new day. Been there, done that, threw that t-shirt away?
I talked about seasons that we find ourselves in recently.  Sometimes, I believe we need to encourage ourselves to get “through” our difficult seasons, and maybe push ourselves forward a little bit.
Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a difficult season harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often found during worst times in our lives.
It may feel like you will be stuck in this season forever, but I promise you that you won’t be. When you feel like it’s all too much, please remember that sometimes circumstances appear to go very wrong before they come around to being very right.
Sometimes you have to go through what seems to be your worst, to arrive at what may be your best.
Things are going to get better. Will you be ready for that change?

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

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I believe that a well-lived life is a life spent completely filled with love.
A life that is spent with love means that a person uses opportunities that come their way to spread joy and happiness and to lift up, encourage and affirm others.
In my own life I can remember being on the receiving end of love on many occasions and even if it was just a small act of kindness, my heart was always touched and the gift of love was very deeply appreciated.
That’s how I know that our acts of love are never in vain. Even if we don’t hear from that person again, you can bet that they will remember it in their hearts longer than you think.
Our kindnesses are remembered and that’s reason enough we should want to be a blessing and lead our lives with love.
We don’t have to go out of our way to show love. Just being aware of what’s going on around us with those we come in contact is usually enough.
I encourage you that your life can be the person through which many lives will rise higher and become better because of your positive interaction with them. Never think that you can’t make a significant difference, because you can.
In the hustle and bustle of our busy lives, it is funny how the best parts of them can be those moments when we get to share love with others.
Start at home with those you love. Look them in the eye, and tell them “I love you.”  Smile at the cashier in the grocery store, and compliment a friend, and don’t forget to say something nice to a stranger. Open a door for someone, help an elderly person with their bags, and do a few random acts of kindness when no one is looking.
It takes so little time to live in love. Moments of love lead to a season of love and a season of love leads to a lifetime of love.  Let love keep you lifted and lift those who you come in contact with.

Contact Frances by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.

Inspirations

Durisseau Frances New Frances Durisseau

I  don’t always sleep very well, and often spend time solving the world’s problems in the wee hours of the night.
Recently while pondering, I was thinking about clichés that we so often let roll off our tongues as gospel such as “Every cloud has a silver lining” and “After the storm, there’s always a rainbow”.
Oh really? I don’t want to “bring anyone down” or “burst anyone’s bubble”, but “I call foul” on those two!
I have been in a lot of big, dark, dismal, ugly, black, hail producing storms in the past few months. I have had to swim against the currents, been swept out by the tides, needed boats to rescue me …  I’ve been beaten up by humongous  hailstones … I’ve been tossed about by damaging winds. I’ve kept my eyes on the sky and have yet to see every cloud having a silver lining nor spotted a rainbow after the endless storms.
That’s just the truth. It’s not pretty, but it’s life and sometimes life isn’t pretty. There is a time for every season in life. There’s a time for dancing and a time for weeping. We don’t get to choose when we will pass through those seasons.
I haven’t had silver linings and rainbows in this season, and to be frank, not even much sunshine. But I have faith and I have hope, and I know that the seasons will once again change for me.  And I believe that if you’re getting pounded in the head with hailstones, they will change you at some point too. In the meantime, run for cover!

Frances Durisseau is a motivational speaker and writer.

Contact her by e-mail at Inspirations_By_Frances@yahoo.com.