Last column we talked about becoming a better listener in the new year. Today I want to address complaining. There is a time and place for (constructive) complaining. But there’s complaining and complainers. The former is used as a conversational tool to air grievances; the latter is a type of person who takes the former to the extreme by complaining about every little inconvenience, problem, and malady. I’m sure you have been around someone whose way of life and speaking contains a high percentage of complaints. It is wearying to those around them. Some of you may also be guilty of complaining too much and have difficulty feeling satisfied, content, and grateful. Instead of complaining about something, write a gratitude list of at least three things for which you’re thankful. Put that list in your pocket or somewhere close by. When the urge to complain about something arises, and it will, read your list. Life is full of complainable (I think I just created a new word) moments. Traffic, long lines, not enough cashiers, having to wait too long at the doctor’s office, aggravating coworkers, too many bills to pay, rude people you encounter, and the list could go on and on and on. Complaining doesn’t change any of it to a positive. It’s life, and you can complain or change your thoughts and communication. There is always something to be thankful for. Find it in the new year and you will find yourself a happier person!