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The following are additional tips on what makes a good parent.
- Set a good example. If you expect consistency, positivity, and respect from your child, you have to show the same values. Kids learn by imitating good role models. If you made a mistake, take responsibility and admit it.
- Recognize, praise, and give positive feedback. Kids thrive on praise and it reinforces positive behavior. Choose constructive feedback over negativity and criticism. Most people, and especially children, view being criticized as a form of rejection, which can develop into a consistent fear and lack of confidence.
- Care for and respect yourself. Self-respect and -care are two qualities that not only determine your ability to do the same for others, but set the basis for healthy, close relationships. Looking after yourself and appreciating your worth means that you have less stress and are more positive. Your family will respond with equal optimism and zest.
- Demonstrate and teach social skills. Social skills such as empathy, respect, politeness, behavioral and emotional control are best shown than talked about. Communicate openly and often. Make a point to ask your children questions about their day and experiences. Acknowledge their emotions and encourage them to talk about it.
- Show and teach gratefulness. Ask your children every day what they are grateful for. A perfect time and place to do this is at the daily dinner table when the family is together. Make sure they understand that acting with honesty and respect and being kind and generous help other people and make them feel good. More importantly, the giver also feels pride and gratefulness.
- Promote health and togetherness. Encourage children to do physical activities that they enjoy. Spend time with them outdoors. Make healthy meals fun. Prepare a meal of your children’s choice once a week. Eat together at least once a day – dinnertime is a great opportunity to talk about everyone’s day.
Good parenting skills does not necessarily refer to parents who do everything for their child, but, rather, those who use effective parenting to provide a safe and caring space for their kids and guide them through their development. Good parents may not always do everything right, but they are always there.
Remember that it is a journey that you undertake together. Good parenting is an important life task, but enjoying your kids are even more important to you both.
