Through the years of my column I have talked
about the ‘suddenlies’ before; those unexpected
life events that come from out of nowhere
and hit you right between the eyes and can
also break your heart. They can be an illness,
a death, a divorce,a job loss or some other un expected
difficulty that you suddenly find yourself
navigating your way through. When they happen, it changes every aspect
of your life. Those changes can bring out the worst in many of us. Our stress
levels rise and anxiety takes hold. Now, here we are in the middle of the holiday
season, too. How are you going to maintain all of your responsibilities and
deal emotionally and physically with everything that is happening in your life?
Honestly,you can’t always do it all. It’s time to prioritize and stick to it,but be
flexible because things will change. Also, it’s time to learn to apply patience
like never before. If you don’t, the stress will make you
sick, or sicker. Give that gift to yourself this holiday season
if you find you are in a suddenly situation. Say no
when you need to without worry of explanation. Walk
away. Give yourself moments, or an hour,or a day, and
absolutely give up the guilt. Guilt is not allowed. Sud denlies
happen. They have happened to me and I am
still finding my way through them. It can take a while
depending on what your suddenlies are. Holidays can
intensify them. Face them, embrace them, and remember
you are strong enough, even when you feel like
you’re not.
