As the end of 2018 approaches, people’s thoughts turn to making new year’s resolutions for 2019. Many of these will focus on self-improvement: losing weight, getting organized, learning a new language, etc. Whoopee! Don’t those sound like fun ideas? In my opinion, if you haven’t shed those pounds, gotten rid of clutter, or learned Mandarin Chinese by now, all the resolutions and good intentions in the world won’t help. It’s time to refocus and ask the right questions. What are we trying to accomplish? And will resolving to do better actually change things? Probably not. Otherwise we would have done these things years ago, right? So where are we going wrong? Maybe we need to examine the reasons we make these resolutions in the first place. Are we trying to lose weight to make ourselves feel better? Is the recurring clutter bothering us or others? Is learning Mandarin going to make us happy, or is it just something we think we ought to be doing? What if we decided to only make resolutions whose results might make us happier human beings? We could resolve to eat more chocolate. We could box up all the clutter in our daily lives, labeling each container “Junk 2018” and stash it out of sight in the garage or attic. We could sign up for Texas Hold’em lessons instead of learning Chinese – which one sounds more profitable to you? Here’s another idea: instead of resolving to do some form of self improvement, why not do something to make you happy instead? Take that cruise you’ve always dreamed of, or move to a new home in another part of the country. Consider pursuing a new career doing something you’ve always wanted to try. Take up sky-diving, kareoke, or tap dancing. Resolve to live life to its fullest. And remember to eat that chocolate!